The truth-teller rises
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
I have been hiding myself.
Putting a filter on my thoughts in a bad way, and not in a good way.
I've been filtering out some of the things that I want to say, worried because the truth can hurt sometimes. And the last thing I ever want to do is hurt someone.
Yet, if we're not telling the truth, do we end up hurting people in the long run?
It's a great question.
The way I’ve been filtering my thoughts, is I've been letting other people's voices (“experts” if you will,):
Tell me what to do
Tell me their opinion on things
Tell me what I shouldn't shouldn't be doing…
The irony of this, that it's the exact opposite of what I preach, is not lost on me.
So I share this because even for me, it can be hard to do. Hard to ignore what you've heard people tell you to do before - when they’ve demonstrated they can get the monetary results.
I'm not talking about the just general people who are talking about how much they make on social media. I'm talking about people you've worked with close enough that you have a pretty good sense that when they say they've made X amount of money - they’re legit. So if you haven't met your monetary goals, why wouldn't you listen to them?
But all this is changing for me, right f’ing now.
I feel like I've been in a constant evolution over the past year, with all of the inner work I’ve been doing. I had zero idea how much personal development/inner work/mindset/etc is needed when you own a business.
I also didn’t know that not only am I on a journey with my business, I’m on a journey with myself.
So what does all this mean besides me rambling? I will keep quiet about my truth, no more.
My good friend Kelly called me a truth-teller several months ago. She's right.
Yet, while I see the truth, I don't always share it. I don't always say to someone, “hey, X isn’t doing your business any favors.” Or, “this is what I see really going on with you.”
While I've started to share a little bit more, as an empath, the last thing I ever wanted to do was hurt someone. Again, we come back to that.
As I've been working with my mentor Aisling, I've started to see I’m not always helping someone, if I'm not cutting to the truth. Turns out I was actually doing a truth sandwich, which is like the compliment sandwich, and we all know what that is.
So here's the deal: new phase, new Jen.
You're going to see some content that might be controversial, that might be provocative - and no, not provocative just so I get views. I could give a flying fuck about that.
The filter is off for what I say and what I see. I'm done trying to still be too nice to or overly nice to hide my truth or water myself down (thank you agency from 2005).
The last thing I'll say is, I've been working on a lot of removing emotion from things. So, all these things I share these aren't me coach-bashing. These aren't me bashing other people, it's just me stating what I see. It is what it is. There's no emotion to it, there's no judgment to it, it's just me see stating what I see.
Buckle up. It’s gonna be an interesting ride ;)